Mother Goddess, Immigrant Children, and the Pain of Social Consciousness

All throughout my social media feeds, I am inundated. Children crying, screaming, for their parents. People begging not to be sent back to the country they fled to save their lives. And my own people - Pagans who feel the compassion of Oneness, of Gaia as Mother to All, yet cannot stop the wailing that we, the United States, has caused.

This is a tragic time for us, living through this time of horrific deeds shared worldwide, unedited, unfiltered, in an instant. We see all of the pain and joy of everyone, for the first time, getting a taste of how overwhelming it must be to have omniscience.

There is no way to describe this new way of living. It used to be that a small handful of photos, taken by a war correspondent, printed months after the fact, could shock us as a nation. Now, those photos are shared, meme'd and seen hundreds of times.

It is easy to become numb. It is easy to mute the videos and the audio recordings. It is all in our faces, and it is easy to push them away to protect ourselves.

What isn't easy is the realization that this choice could place us on the wrong side of history. What isn't easy is plowing through contradictions and lies to find the facts. What isn't easy is to open our hearts and hear what the gods are telling us. What isn't easy is to take a stand and to be vocal about it.

In truth, nothing about this is easy. But that's the point. Life isn't easy. It isn't supposed to be. Life is a mountain. You don't get to the top by complaining about the incline.

As a Heathen, I believe in certain values. First, in my heart is the value of Hosting, or Hospitality. It is my duty as a human on this earth to aide travelers, visitors, and those fleeing danger. It is my honor to provide for them, knowing that someday they or their children will do the same for another.

As a mother, I believe in a single rule: Always protect the children. This is non-negotiable, and I accept that others may need to be... um, removed to do this.

As a Pagan, a member of a minority religion, I believe that every right and generous action given to women, minorities, immigrants, etc. PROTECTS my rights. In a fascist situation, I will be one of the last to have my rights stripped. I will not let it get to me and my children. The rights of more vulnerable people literally protect my rights.

So there's some things to consider as we all struggle through this mess.

What are you doing about this situation? Are you good with your choice? Should you be?

Pagan Children's Books Litha Newsletter

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It's time for Litha!

School is out! Our plans for the year are either in full swing or coming up soon! This time of year can be hectic and frustrating, and so much fun!

This would be a good time for kids and families to make some time to breathe. Camp and vacation is great, but are you stopping to enjoy everything along the way?

Don't be afraid to let things go, to say "no" to an activity, to just have a movie night instead of cramming another day-trip or public event in. And don't forget to check in with the rest of the family. Are they enjoying what's going on, or are they stressed from rushing around? Maybe they want more, maybe less.

Remember that the growth of your kids requires some down-time, even at this time of year.


There are some great activities you can do just for Litha. I'm pretty big on developing life skills, so I tend to focus on things that will help kids learn to take care of themselves later on.

Here's some ideas for helping kids get their summer groove on to celebrate this time of bounty and beauty.

Beltaine: Celebrating the Fullness of Life

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Each Sabbat brings with it a special meaning as part of the wheel of the year. The journey through the seasons is not just a physical one, but also mental and spiritual.

As we approach each Sabbat, we can grow with the seasons when we know the lessons each one brings us. This series explores the Sabbats' spiritual meaning in the context of modern Pagans.

Beltaine is the time of year when we celebrate the fertility all around us. But fertility doesn't just mean producing biological offspring.

We, as humans, produce many things. We have the minds, the drive towards technology, the ability to create in the most awe inspiring ways. It is this that is the spark of the divine, and celebrating fertility means celebrating that spark in all its forms.

Whether you focus on raising children or organizing activities, whether you create works of art or craft items both beautiful and practical, you are manifesting the Divine Mother, the fertile earth, the Seed of the Wild God.

It is important for us to remember that even the most basic of activities can be divine. We can be founders of companies, making changes to honor the others in our work, or we can be "burger flippers," contributing to the conveniences that nourish our communities as we push for even more in our world.

How do you honor the divine in your work? What dreams of fertility do you hold dear?

Pagan Children's Books Beltaine Newsletter

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The next Sabbat is just around the corner! Check out our thoughts on summer fun - tell us how you like it on our FB page!

Blessed be, <<First Name>>! It is once again Beltaine in the northern hemisphere! The school year is almost over, and the hot season will be upon us quickly. This is a great time to talk to kids about accomplishing their goals, and encouraging habits such as walking (instead of driving those few blocks), and recycling and neighborhood trash pick-up. Parents, what values do you want your kids to really understand this year? What activities will help with that understanding? What small but mighty activities can you encourage? Get your goals a-growing with some easy activities that keep your kids thinking and spotlight the values YOU want to instill! ABC Book of Goddesses is a great choice for birthdays or bedtime reading! The school year is almost over, but kids never stop learning. There are a few things that you can do over the summer to keep those young minds busy. If you've been working with your kids on planting the seeds for their yearly goals, now is the time to put those into action! Summer Camp. Whether it's a day camp or a week of overnights, camps can be a great way to immerse kids into an activity. There are music camps, sports camps, camping camps, and more. Check out what is in your area and talk about the options. Make sure you discuss budgets, too - those camps can get pricey! Museums/Zoos. If you are fortunate enough to live in a place with a good museum or zoo, consider getting a membership. Kids can spend hours going through exhibits, and many museums and zoos have kids' areas where they can play and explore with only a little adult oversight. (Letting kids learn for themselves is a great way to foster their own interests AND build self-esteem!) Scouting. Spiral scouts, girl scouts, or boy scouts (now open to girls, too) can be a great way to give kids a social outlet with goal-oriented rewards. Badges can cover all levels of ability and skill. It's well worth checking out. Libraries. Consider having a library day - one day each week when you make a trip to the local book habitat. Spend some time browsing, check out story time, and take a few home to read throughout the week. Nature walking the neighborhood. Challenge kids to find plants and animals throughout the neighborhood. Or go to a nearby park for your walks. Have a notebook handy to write down more interesting specimens, then see what videos and pictures you can find on the internet to expand your knowledge!

Parenting Minutia & Parenting Goals

It is really easy to get caught up in the little things.

Yes, we should stop and enjoy the little things, like snuggle piles, inside jokes, and bad 80s family movies. But that's not what I'm talking about here.

I'm talking about the micromanaging, the over-scheduling, the nitpicking. And I'm not judging. We all do it, at times. We all get stressed about things and over-reach with our time. We all want to make a good impression at the family reunion or going out to a nice dinner. We all feel that pressure.

That's fine. Don't beat yourself up over that. But also, don't make that your parenting focus.

There are entire articles dedicated to informing pregnant women how to get on a wait-list for a preschool, which feeds into an elementary school, which feeds into a high school, which virtually guarantees an Ivy League acceptance letter. It's really hard to see that and not think, holy canoli, am I denying my kid by not pursuing this?

The short answer is no.

The long answer is nooooooo. And there are studies to prove it.

The kind of parenting that focuses on such little details is often called helicopter parenting. Over-scheduling, micro-managing, etc, are characteristics of a controlled type of family life, which allows little to no room for error. Not for the kids, not for t
he parents.

While it certainly can relieve the anxiety surrounding parenting in a high-pressure society, it actually can harm the kids. Not in a violently abusive way, but in a subtle, undermining way.

See, kids need to learn to be people. That's what their job is. It isn't to check off a bunch of boxes on their way to a graduate degree. It's to develop the skills that will serve them for the rest of their lives.

The ironic thing is that teaching that is actually considered a more "lazy" form of parenting.

Letting your toddler explore the playground - and possibly scrape her knee - teaches that a bit of pain isn't the end of the world. Yes, comfort her, but don't try to save her. She'll just learn that she needs to be saved.

Letting your kids roam the neighborhood (to the degree that it is reasonably safe) with other kids teaches them to form and navigate relationships, and to get creative with their play. Bonus: you can talk to them about their day, because you weren't there the whole time, and give them advice if they seem to be having trouble with someone.

Demanding chores is a big one. I am not a maid. It's never been a fun thing for me. Satisfying, sometimes, but never pleasant. My kids do chores because they live here, too. My husband and I still do the lion's share, but they can rotate laundry, put dishes away, vacuum, and even cook - quite a bit.

Because of this, they often express satisfaction and pride in what they can do. Don't get me wrong, they still complain a lot when it's time to do the work, but they know they can do it, and that makes them feel like they can do other things, too. Plus, I won't be getting calls from college because they don't know how to run a washing machine.

So, how did I get here? How do I stay on course when social pressures are getting to me?

I decided a long time ago that my only goal as a parent was to produce an adult that was as successful and independent as their physical and mental abilities would allow. I revisit this idea often, reminding myself that I've seen grown men who outsource their laundry because washing clothes was a "girl's chore" or people who have to spend more money on food because they can't even make grilled cheese or spaghetti. And I don't blame them, entirely.

Parents need to teach their kids to be good adults, first by learning basics with supervision, then by taking on more and more responsibilities for themselves. And responsibility is a very Pagan quality.

Ostara: a Time of Growth

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Each Sabbat brings with it a special meaning as part of the wheel of the year. The journey through the seasons is not just a physical one, but also mental and spiritual.

As we approach each Sabbat, we can grow with the seasons when we know the lessons each one brings us. This series explores the Sabbats' spiritual meaning in the context of modern Pagans.

Ostara is the Spring Equinox, straddling the line between the cold Winter nights and the warm days of Spring and Summer. While Imbolc brings the light to the year, the warmth of that light takes a bit longer, welcomed by Ostara.

This marks the time when we need to get serious about getting things planted. If we haven't started yet, the time is coming soon. Seeds should be sorted, plots of land mapped out - the future depends on whether we plant the right stuff to harvest and eat in the winter.

This applies to our metaphorical seeds, as well. Soon, we will no longer be trapped indoors by the weather. We will be free to do all the activities we need to. The days are still getting longer, giving us more time and energy to be active.

What "seeds" are you preparing for this year? What plans do you make?

Pagan Children's Books Ostara Newsletter

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Blessed be, <<First Name>>! Ostara is about to blossom forth in nature. This Sabbat is about the first signs of growth in the new year. This means the sprouting of the first seeds - whether floral or spiritual. What seeds have you planted? What goals have you set up? If you haven't started working on them yet, now is the time to do so! Work done now has the added energy of what we plant now, we shall harvest. This means more oomph to get it accomplished. That means now is the time to set up abundance spells, now is the time to be generous, and now is the time to start projects that you want to have solid results. ABC Book of Goddesses is a great choice for birthdays or bedtime reading! Look for the things you want to grow and change this year, and get the ball rolling for it! This is a skill set, to make goals happen. And it is one that kids are never too young (or old) to start learning. Here's some steps to teach them! Clarify your goal. Make sure you know exactly what you want. Break it down. Go for daily, weekly and/or monthly steps to accomplish the task. Give it a deadline. Determine when you want it done. Do the same for each step. Clarify if the deadline is firm or flexible. Set up a task list. Make the steps easy to see and understand, then add a box - you can check it off or add a sticker, etc. when it is done. Help kids do the tasks themselves. It is so much easier to research summer camps yourself. Instead, narrow it down to fewer choices and let the kids decide. A guideline to keep it real is - no more than half the kid's age plus one (A 3yo gets two choices, a 10yo gets up to six, etc.) Walk them through pros and cons lists. Show kids how to evaluate choices by making a list of benefits and drawbacks. You can talk about priorities (cost may be a more important factor than location), how each choice would effect others (can mom or dad handle packing a lunch every day for a week of day camp?), etc. Don't forget the spells! Help kids write and work spells to aid their goals. Talk about effects, costs, correspondences, gods, and techniques to teach them how to determine if and what kind of spells to use.