Making Introductions: Teaching Our Children About Our Gods

"Who is this?" says the child, picking up the magnet of Kali from the fridge door.

"That's Kali," I respond. "She my favorite goddess."

"She looks scary."

"That's because she protects us from bad things. That's why she's a bit scary."

That was how I introduced my son to Kali, many years ago. He spent over a year entranced with the magnet showing Kali in all her deadly glory. When we moved, he insisted that we bring her along with us. Because she protects us.

Kids want to know about our gods and goddesses. They crave the security of having someone else looking out for them. They want to know that someone is looking out for mom and dad like mom and dad look out for them.

Here are some things to keep in mind when introducing the gods:


1.   Keep pictures and statues in sight and let the kids become curious about the images on their own. And they will. Kids are curious about everything.

2.   Don't be afraid to filter out some of the more complicated stuff - you can get to that later, when the child is older and better able to grasp those nuances.

3.   Keep the language age-appropriate. Just because a $5 word is commonly used doesn't mean that is the best way to describe the god or goddess to your child.

4.   Introducing the gods to our children doesn't have to be a full education. Our minds develop in such a way that we learn very well with small bits of information, stories and pictures. Tell a basic story or simple explanation of the god or goddess. Then, let the child have time to consider that. More questions will come.

5.   Involve the kids in basic rituals once they've been introduced. Our kids were intrigued about the candy we left out for Ganesha. Soon they were excited to help give the offerings (and later steal them - good thing Ganesha likes kids).

6.   Don't just limit the information to a textbook-type of description. Make sure that you explain why you like the god or goddess, and how they influence or help you. Show them the ways we interact with our gods and why we do it.

7.   When they are older, help your kids decide when and how to honor gods and goddesses for their own lives. Perhaps Thoth can help them study, or Apollo will inspire their choice of band instrument. Don't be afraid to make suggestions, but don't push them. Most kids will find the idea intriguing without any pressure.

Toddler Altar by MazerCreations

8.   Eventually, the child will ask about a god or goddess that isn't one of your bent. It may even be Jesus or Jehovah. It is important to remain objective about them. If you aren't critical about any other gods, they will notice if you are critical about that one. Explain who the god or goddess is, why some people choose to worship them, and why you choose not to. It's okay to go into social and historical contexts, as long as it's age-appropriate.

9.   Have fun! Gods and goddesses are for celebrating. Let your child feel your own emotional connection to the gods, and let them get excited to share that.

10.  Don't worry about brainwashing. It's a lot harder to brainwash people than you think. For children, this is a comfort and a family bond. If you don't think they will ever be able to choose for themselves... well, wait 'til they're teens.

Children & Beliefs: Teaching our kids our practices

Illustration from Pooka Pages

Why we should teach our kids our religion while we raise them? Why it is so important to embrace sharing our beliefs with our children? How to do so without forcing them or making them feel trapped by their parents' beliefs?

These are questions that the Pagan community struggles with as we raise our children in the highest numbers since Gardner published Witchcraft Today in 1954.

We are so used to seeing the effects of religious belief being framed in Christian terms. That is the world we live in.

But what does pure religious belief have to offer our kids? There are studies (here, here, here, and here) that indicate that sharing religious beliefs, activities and experiences can strengthen a family's relationships to each other. There is often more connection and communication.

Children standing with The Lady of Cornwall
in a neopagan ceremony in England.

Religious beliefs may help children better deal with the natural stresses of life by providing a sense of belonging to a group and being part of "something bigger". The routine of rituals and holidays can provide a sense of structure to a child's life.

Healthy spiritual beliefs may improve health, both physical and psychological. Religion provides a way to express the innate need to find purpose and reason in the natural world, and a way to express our beliefs in a supernatural world.

Obviously, these benefits are only seen when the religious experience is a positive one. When the religious experience is confining, restrictive or even hostile, the affects of religion can turn very dark.
Some ways that teaching religion does NOT support healthy religious beliefs include:

• punishment for not adhering to religious behaviors
• teaching by rote memorization rather than engaging with stories and games
• negative reactions to questioning the religious teachings – this can include refusal to answer or refusal to consider alternatives
• using fear as a way to reinforce belief – ie, if you don’t believe, you’ll go to hell

Leaving kids the choice is an issue that I hear a lot of. So I ask, how does allowing your children to religiously identify the same way that their mom and dad do, close the door to them asking about other religions? Or prevent them from later changing their mind?

From Raising Pagan Children

If we want our children to feel like a complete part of our families, we need to include them in our religious experiences. We can do this by talking to our kids about our beliefs, about the rituals that we practice, and about the gods and spirits that we interact with in our lives.

I will leave you with a quote from an article from UU World: “Sharing personal religious and spiritual beliefs with children is not indoctrination; it is offering the guidance they eagerly seek until they are developmentally ready to decide for themselves. If children receive vague and confusing answers time and again when they ask about spiritual and theological issues, they’ll eventually stop asking and start looking for answers elsewhere. But many of the other people your children may encounter in life will not be so hesitant to pass on their religious beliefs, opening up the possibility that the vacuum you’ve left will be filled by others who are seeking to indoctrinate them.”